I walked into the room and was greeted by my husband with, “The Beatles shortest song title.” My husband is very good at Jeopardy and he will sometimes quiz me to see if I can give the question to an answer from the show. My mind ran through titles in a small attempt to grab the right file in my brain. With a smirk, I answered, “What is… Strawberry Fields Forever?” A patient look and gentle shake of his head told me I’d not guessed right. “Just tell me,” I pleaded. “Help,” he said. Yeah, I needed some help alright.
“Help” is the Beatles shortest song title. I’ve been reading Naked Spirituality by Brian D. McLaren and this morning’s chapter had this to say:
“When we call out for help, we are bound more powerfully to God through our needs and weaknesses, our unfilled hopes and dreams, and our anxieties and problems than we ever could have been through our joys, successes, and strengths alone. Help is a plea to God and represents a move from self-reliance to God-reliance, and that’s a step in the right direction.
In Romans 5, Paul writes that the weaker we become outwardly, the more we can be renewed inwardly, and that our struggles, described as lightweight and temporary, produce in us a durable glory, which is weighty and eternal.
Through that single, simple word help, we can partner with God to turn each challenge into an opportunity for growth.”
When we tell God and others that we need help, we aren’t putting ourselves down, but releasing our trouble. We are, in fact, being a friend to ourselves. As we receive the blessing of ease that comes when a burden is shared, we are then able to help someone else from a place that was weak, but now is strong. And it’s a process, but one that works.
Anne Lamott wrote a book called Help, Thanks, Wow – 3 Essential Prayers. For me that simplifies our relationship with God, and reminds me that even for the 47th time, I can ask for help again for the very same thing:
“When we think we can do it all ourselves — fix, save, buy, or date a nice solution — it’s hopeless. We’re going to screw things up. We’re going to get our tentacles wrapped around things and squirt our squiddy ink all over, so that there is even less visibility, and then we’re going to squeeze the very life out of everything.”
“Prayer is taking a chance that against all odds and past history, we are loved and chosen, and do not have to get it together before we show up.”
So let’s be brave enough to ask for help when we need it, believing that God will answer and turn it into something that blooms. And if your experience is like mine, God will put someone in front of you that you have thought was weaker or less spiritually mature, and feed you right from their spoon.
Grace & Peace,
(c) Sozo Life & Leadership, Robin L. Lewis, June 9, 2014