Jesus is our example of living a Holy Spirit led life. He never reacted in fear or frustration or futility, but always had His spirit and mind in tune with the Holy Spirit of God. He listened and did what the Father told Him to do, which always brought about the best outcome.
Were others always pleased with the outcome? No. But showed us that we are not living here to always please others. We live here to find pleasure in God, and feel His love and pleasure in us.
When you feel a reaction is brimming, hold yourself and listen to the Father. He will give you the right guidance, just as He has promised. And the Spirit-ed life is the Sozo Life!